總是過分在意別人的言語，真的會活得很累

 很喜歡楊絳先生說的這段話：

“ 如果別人說你兩句，你就受不了了，被別人說兩句話干擾的吃不好，睡不好，你想你得多脆弱啊？”

曾經的我，也這樣脆弱過，只是那時候不懂得，我為什麼要去在意呢，在意了又能怎麼樣了？能改變什麼呢？

余華說：" 生活是屬於每個人自己的感受，不屬於任何別人的看法。即使你真的被人說壞話，也沒什麼好在意的，因為對方如何看你，那是因為對方只配看到那面。"

不要和重要的人，計較不重要的事。不要和不重要的人，計較重要的事。

總是過分在意別人的言語，真的會活得很累。

莫言說：" 一個人罵了你一句，你記了兩天，他就罵了你兩天；你若是記了一年，那麼他就罵了你一年；你若是到死都記得，那這個人就罵了你一輩子。所以啊，人生在世，能干擾你的，能折磨你的，往往都是自己的太在意；能傷害你的，往往是自己的想不開。"

毛姆曾經說過：“ 一個人如果因為別人的愚蠢而生氣的話，那麼他一輩子，就會生活在永久的憤怒中。"

在烏鴉的世界裏，天鵝也是有罪的。當別人不懷好意時，我們就把他們當成烏鴉，自己就是那美麗的白天鵝，天鵝都是高高在上，所以就不用理會那些黑壓壓的烏鴉所說的話。

修煉內心，調整心態，嘗試不去在意別人的看法，當你的內心足夠強大，看待任何事都從容了。

我們這一輩子，遇到的人很多，總有幾個人討厭你，非議你，詆譭你，其實他們這樣做，無非就是羨慕嫉妒你罷了，你應該高興，因為你活得比他們好，不用在意。

很喜歡《百年孤獨》裏的一句話：“ 比起有人左右情緒的日子，我更喜歡無人問津的時光。”

歲月靜好是片刻，一地雞毛是日常。即使世界偶爾薄涼，內心也要繁花似錦。

我在等風也等你

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20240430 FLOWERS QUOTES

 

Don't wait for someone to bring you flowers. Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul. Mario Quintana

Just be a good person.

Love who you can,

help where you can,

give what you can.

Life is a circle of happiness, sadness, hard times, and good ones.  So if you are going through a hard time have faith good times are on your way.

20240311 A fabulous friendship multiplies the good in life

Friendship is like a precious flower 

Ready to bloom every hour

It may stop growing

or keep on flowing

But you will still have it forever

Making a million friends is not a miracle. The miracle is to make a friend who will stand by you when millions are against you.

A fabulous friendship multiplies  the good in life 

Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain...

It's not something you learn in school

But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship;

you really haven't learned anything

20240322 Huge thanks for your lovely Spring gifts! Kimiko

  Kimiko San,

おはいよございます!  I just received the parcel packaging from you.

Huge thanks for your lovely Spring gifts!

Love the Sakura collections-Sakura Hoji Tea & Maple Cookie & Gauze Towel, Flowered Tea & purse.... Those Sakusa seasons collections make my day; thanks so much for your thoughtfulness and kindness in sending such amazing gifts that inspired my life in springtime! 

Love the poem and like to share it with you.

You are like a flower, always there to uplift my heart and make my life a little more meaningful! 

Friends are like flowers, they make life's journey a little sweeter." "Friends are like flowers, they bloom when we need them most." "A friend is like a flower, always there to brighten our day and make life a little more beautiful." "Friends are like flowers, they bring warmth and light to our darkest days."

20240303 Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace

 Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.

-Dalai Lama 

Remember, most of your stress comes from the

way you respond, not the way life is.  Adjust your 

attitude and all the extra stress is gone.

You can't change how people treat you or what they say about you.  All you can do is change how you react to it.

Don't sacrifice your time for people who wouldn't do the same for you.

20240229 Time is free, but it's priceless

 Time is free, but it's priceless

You can't own it,

but you can use it.

You can't keep it,

but you can spend it.

Once you've lost it you can never get it back

20240130 Be thankful for what you have

 

1/30/2024

If you watch too much social media; you will feel frustrated.  You see one of your friends always travels a lot and enjoys gourmet food; one of your friends always has afternoon tea with friends.

 You will envy them that they have a fruitful life. 

 Try to concentrate on what you have, and be thankful for what you have; you will have a mindful and happy life. 

Two years ago, my beloved Daddy passed away.  I always dreamed of Daddy in my dreams.  He walked toward me with a smile.  He always took care of me and my family even when we had a quarrel with different opinion.  He looked like an angel; always protecting and taking care of us.

Miss you so much, Daddy!

 “Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.”

—Oprah Winfrey